Did you have the intention of getting over someone else by dating this person? Can you see this person outside of serving you as just Transitional Man. Also, have you truly gotten over your Ex. If your Ex carries only pesky painful memories, then he might just be that- a memory and not a relevant and real person in your life.
Are you craving this person because well, it’s been a long time since you had a hot touch. Maybe they just offer something so novel from what you’ve ever experienced. Maybe something forbidden. Or are you desiring a person because you know they are someone you can’t have.
Is one person the safer choice. What you want and what you need are rarely the same thing. Are you with this person because it IS right or because you THINK it’s right. Is it also potentially out of habit?
Are they two sides of the same coin? Someone begets passion while another radiates warmth. Possibly, you just want neither person. And the hesitation stems from a deep desire to hesitate and not decide. On the other hand, hesitation may be good, because you need struggle before you reach true happiness. When you’re struggling, you’re trying.
Peoples’ hearts change. They wear out as well. I think there can be an overlap and that at a moment, you can love two people at the same time. But not as deeply and fully when you’ve decided to pour your heart into one person. And if you’re in that limbo, I’d just ride it through. Feel for both fully until it’s evident who you truly love.
